This is a concept lost on most men going through divorce. They can’t imaging going through life without a woman attached to their side. Through their divorce men are either dating the girl they cheated with, rushing out to find a single mom or some other equally poor decision to make a relationship with, or they are banging bar sluts. Either way, most men entering into divorce fail to see the bigger picture. That they are free to create a perfect life.
Why am I hard on the women here? I am not, its most men fail to stand on their own. Have they been told by society that they are “manning up” by committing his life and resources to some random women? Do they feel guilty because some other beta male or religious figure in their lives told them to “just do the right thing?” Are they unaware at the end of the day they are societies ATM machine, supporting retail shopping, baby making and home building? So what holds men back?
A leftover girlfriend they cheated on their wives with, which for all intents and purposes, was the cause of the divorce, secretly want the fantasy of a man so enthralled with her that he would destroy his life to have her. And everyone else’s lives, including his children. She wants what he has already had, babies and a fairy tale wedding. He is ready to drop any dream, ambition or his fatherhood to his first children, to give her what she wants? And why? Who knows, she may have him by the balls.
Single moms and women latching on to recently divorced men also want the same thing. A provider, an ATM machine a supporter. But whats in it for the man? The chance to get divorced in his 50’s & 60’s? The single mom has her own issues to deal with, and if you are willing to step in and shoulder all of that burden, away from your children, then so be it, go be the cuckold beta herb. Violent ex husbands, ungrateful kids, debt and her financial ruin, aside from an already worn out person, are all for the taking on this adventure.
And here we are on to the last option, sleeping with lots of women. You think this is wrong. You had a well meaning pastor convince you you are a horrible person for your divorce, and that being single at your age is an abomination. You had a family member make fun of you, or many. You feel like a failure because you’ve been told that. Approaching and dating lots of women is really the only option to develop a healthy male ego and easily combat these feelings. The only way to reverse all of that negative feedback is to prove to yourself you can attract and date multiple women all at one time.
The first step in Happy Bachelorhood is noticing and accepting of things for how they really are. And to use an already worn out analogy from The Matrix, you’re Neo and you are waking up to a societal reality, which helps you ultimately see yourself.
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